We can will ourselves to forget; a neural circuit like the one that inhibits actions governs the ability to reject memories we neither want nor need.
Emerging data provide support for Sigmund Freud’s controversial theory of repression, by which unwanted memories are shoved into the subconscious.
The inability to forget can impede emotional recovery in trauma victims; it is also associated with attention-deficit hyperactivity disorder.
If you practice rebuffing recollections, you are likely to get better at it.
How can you know that unless you’ve taken counsel with yourself in solitude? I started by noting that solitude and leadership would seem to be contradictory things. But it seems to me that solitude is the very essence of leadership. The position of the leader is ultimately an intensely solitary, even intensely lonely one. However many people you may consult, you are the one who has to make the hard decisions. And at such moments, all you really have is yourself.